One word: pressure. Imagine the pressure of only being a planner or only being a bride and add them together. Oddly enough, the pressure didn’t come from other people necessarily, but from myself. My goal was to do the absolute best that I could and throughout my near two years of planning, I’d routinely have to swap my planner hat and bride hat, ensuring that I was giving the appropriate response and reactions to the tasks ahead. I was fortunate enough to have an on-site planner for both of my wedding celebrations, especially as they were in Spain and France respectively. So while I was still doing a huge quantity of work, especially in the styling and aesthetics of the big day, I had people to coordinate the logistics. I also had to remember that on my wedding day, I didn’t want to be working: I wanted to marry my soulmate and have fun. To other planners out there and non-planners who want to organise their own ceremony: let go of the reigns a little, find someone you can work with and who will take some of the pressure off, especially regarding all the minute problems that crop up on the day. Trust me, you don’t want to be dealing with a prosecco shortage when you should be dancing the night away.
The biggest thing for me was finding people that I could trust, that understood and respected my vision and who were able to advise on the best tools and suppliers to obtain it. Luckily, I found them and despite my involvement, I wouldn’t have had my two beautiful and different weddings without their hard work.
Being a planner, I have a special appreciation of their skill and I was able to understand their thought process. I was also well placed to question things, in a way that other clients might not be, such as more technical AV questions or practical things, from experiences that I have gained with my own clients.
I find that planning is an often underestimated career, but done properly, it’s lengthy, intense and rewarding. What I took from my experiences, more than just advising to hire a planner, is to not be afraid to ask for help. You can’t do things all by yourself and maintain your sanity (or if you do, you’re superhuman). People are there to assist you in the best way that they can and when it comes to your wedding day, you need to remember to have fun. That’s what it’s all about at the end of the day.