Hiring a wedding planner is a difficult task, but equally one of the most satisfying. This could also extend to event planners in general, but the nature of a wedding and the intimate, symbolic act of getting married makes it that more essential to get it right.
Many brides choose to plan their own weddings, for personal reasons, budget reasons or simply because they think they can handle it. I can’t stress enough how important it is to get external help of some kind, whether it’s a professional wedding planner, app (such as the La Fête Planner) or a reliable and efficient family member/friend. So many things add up, details that you never could have imagined would come up and that can make the lead up to the wedding and the big day filled with anxiety. If there’s anything I know, it’s that a bride deserves to enjoy her special day without a care in the world, savouring every instant, and not fretting over whether there’s enough champagne and canapés for all the guests. Even though I’m a planner, I took the decision to hire two wedding planners: one for each of my destination ceremonies in Spain and France. I know both places like the back of my hand and speak the language, which is an undeniable advantage, but I wanted in a way to ally myself with local planners who can more easily coordinate the festivities and allow me to truly cherish both occasions.
The key thing for me when choosing a wedding planner was connection: did these people get who I really was? Did they also understand my fiancé? Would they be okay with the fact that my role would be hands on, creative and very decisive, meaning that their habitual creative input would take a backseat to mine? Fortunately, I found two wonderful women who understood exactly what I was after and provided me with the best curated options for us, advice, administrative and logistical details, as well as local knowledge that I could never have come across had they not informed me of it.
Efficiency isn’t the only criteria. Sure, it’s an important one, but feeling at ease enough to be brutally honest and being able to joke, as well as being serious is essential. This person is accompanying you on a major day of your life, they need to know your likes and dislikes inside out. You need to be comfortable enough with them to share concerns over the number of toilets at the venue to allergies, general worries, etc. I understand just how important it is to get right as I’m in the process of wedding planning right now, especially with two destination weddings, as you can’t have a coffee appointment or catch up with your planner whenever you feel like it. That’s why you need to trust your planner, but simultaneously don’t be afraid to question anything: you know yours and your partner’s needs better than anybody. Ultimately, it’s about striking the right balance of trust; communication; honesty and compatibility. Just like with your partner!