A wedding is a never-ending list of planning, challenges and questions, that still isn’t quite over even though your event is technically finished. I always recommend help from a planner, who will be there to fine-tune the details, deal with issues, set up/break down the event and remove a large portion of stress from your shoulders.
Below you will find the key tools needed for planning and the process broken down into three major parts.
- Notebook – invest in a wedding planner with tabs to stay on top of different categories/subjects.
- File with sections – fill it with magazine clippings, photos and overall inspiration. Separate it by sections, you will be able to find things easier.
- Pens, paperclips and general stationery.
- Online programmes that can track budgets, timelines and guests.
It’s all about answering questions and laying out the basics:
- Who? – who do you want there with you? Who are your bridesmaids/groomsmen? Who do you want to officiate?
- What? – an extravagant 250 guest affair or a registry office wedding?
- Where? – the venue is key and dependent on the number of guests you settle on.
- When? – make sure to have enough time to plan. Also, which season do you prefer?
- How? – think of logistics and budget: what is actually possible? Also, what kind of aesthetic are you going for?
- Why? – why do you want a wedding at all? And why are you making certain choices? Think this over carefully and make sure that you are choosing things for yourself and not others.
This part is all about booking things, visits, tastings, confirming appointments and racking your brains to make sure you haven’t forgotten everything. It’s an intense period of paperwork and payments, but also lulls before the final part, with the lull a source of anxiety for certain brides who are scared of forgetting something.
Probably the most challenging part! Issues come to light here and need to be solved on a tight deadline. Problem solving is key and you need to make sure to not succumb to the stress. The day of your wedding will have last minute problems that are beyond your control and that most guests would probably never notice, but I know just how much they can upset you and affect your day, after having invested your heart, soul, time and money.
I do recommend a planner to help, even if it’s just for the logistics of your wedding: I had one for each of my weddings this year and was so grateful that I wouldn’t have to deal with last minute problems and could truly enjoy my day.