Today on La Fête our founder, Charlotte, is offering her inspirational list of ’10 Things I Wish I Knew 10 Years Ago’…
1. BE KIND AND ACCEPTING OF YOUR FAMILY
I didn’t always have the easiest relationship with my parents and sister as a teenager. What I learned in my twenties was to take people as they are and not as you’d like them to be. That changed my relationships for the better and I couldn’t ask for a better support system than my family: remember to always cherish the people closest to you and treat them well.
2. DON’T STOP TRUSTING PEOPLE BECAUSE OF ONE BAD EXPERIENCE
Bad experiences shouldn’t close you off from people and building a relationship with them, romantic or otherwise. Don’t let negativity define your future interactions with people. Live your best life and open your heart to trusting again, even if it’s a challenge.
3. IT’S HEALTHY TO TALK ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS AND ALWAYS BE HONEST
Vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s beautiful and raw and it should be shared. Speaking about your emotions will not only teach others about you, but also yourself. Always be honest no matter how sensitive a topic of conversation maybe. People will value your voice even more.
4. VALUE EDUCATION AND EXPERIENCES
I’ve never been the most academic person, but education is the foundation of everything in my opinion. Working hard and learning can lead to incredible experiences and projects. Appreciate every single thing to come your way, big or small. You may not realise it, but it all plays a role in building you and your future.
5. LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF AND BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU
You can’t please everyone so just rock being yourself and love every single unique flaw you have. You have to love yourself and trust me, it will make you magnetic
6. BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR CAREER PATH, EVEN IF YOU’RE NOT SURE WHERE IT WILL TAKE YOU
Questioning your career path is normal and essential, but do not veer into crippling anxiety, as this will only sabotage you. Be confident and humble simultaneously: take criticism and advice, but stand your ground when necessary.
7. PRIORITISE MEMORIES AND LIFE OVER WORK (SOMETIMES)
Work is an important part of my life, especially as a business owner. But I remember missing out on family events as a teenager because of revision or having to choose a seemingly urgent work situation over dinner with my friends. Remember to take a step back and learn how to prioritise: the email in your inbox may not be as important and urgent as you think it is, but your outing with friends has been a calendar highlight for a month. Find a balance and separate both your working and personal lives, with a healthy form of compromise between the two.
8. KNOW WHEN AND WHAT TO SAY NO TO
Too often I’ve said yes to things that haven’t been right for me, just because it was an opportunity. Learn what is right for you and what isn’t. Don’t be afraid to say no and equally, don’t be afraid to say yes to something different. Also, timing is key in life, so learn how to say things and when is appropriate.
9. TRUST YOUR GUT
This point is pretty self-explanatory. Trust that little voice in your head, or the feeling in the pit of your stomach. However it manifests, listen to it and keep an open-mind. I’ve been in situations where my gut has told me the opposite of the general opinion and I’ve followed my instinct and been right. Everyone has a gut instinct, but it’s how you develop it and cultivate it in your daily life
10. DON’T FEAR JUDGEMENT
It’s easy to let fear hold you back. Don’t fall into that trap and especially don’t let people’s opinions of you control your life and career. No matter what you do, people will comment and have their opinion one way or the other, so do not do anything but what is right for you. If you’re a doer, people will sit back and judge. Unless it’s constructive criticism, pay it no mind and just do you, unapologetically.
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